Disclaimer: This post was written as a trial for a nightlife blog that was just launching. They wanted different folks to write about all aspects of nightlife, from what to wear, where to go, what booze to drink and the best hangover cure. They wanted all sorts of different writers so that their content could be as varied and diverse as possible. It was also a paid position. A paid position! Not much, mind you, but if I got it, I could finally get my foot in the door and start calling myself a freelance writer.
Except, despite me getting it sent well before our agreed deadline, the guy never got back to me, even when I sent him another email a few days later to give him a polite nudge. Oh well, can’t miss what you didn’t have. So I’m whacking it on my own blog – I hope you guys like it!
When you think ‘Introvert’, what comes to mind? In broad terms, a quiet person, who would rather be curled up inside with a book, than be outside talking to people. Stereotypically, they’re not the kind to go out party into the night; those are traits for the lively and vivacious Extroverts. Extroverts are more likely to be thought of as the ‘life of the party’, as they thrive on all sorts of social interaction.
Well, news flash, us Introverts like to party, too. Maybe not as often as everyone else, we certainly need to be in the right mood for it. But Introverts also like to be the social butterfly, let our hair down, paint the town red, put on our dancing shoes… and any other going out clichés you can think of.
Here are some thoughts that might pass through an Introvert’s mind during a night out on the town.
It’s too crowded in here.
Introverts get their energy from being alone, so walking into a club packed full of people can be a little bit daunting. The swirl of activity is overwhelming for us, from the crowded bar to the queue at the toilets. It’s easy enough to adjust, but it can take some time.
I can totally not be me for a little while.
We can so do the Extrovert thing, in fact it’s often necessary. Sometimes, there’s nothing better than living outside of yourself, pretending that you too can be the life of the party. And it helps knowing that at the end of the night, you get to go home and replenish. Hopefully with a box of takeaway pizza, or a kebab.
Can we skip the small talk and immediately become best friends?
We all meet randomers on nights out. When you’re at the right level of tipsy everyone becomes your best friend, from the girl in the toilets or that guy in the smoking area you’re trying to bum a cig off. However, at the beginning of the night when you’re stone cold sober, it can be difficult to strike up conversation. Especially as most Introverts hate small talk, we prefer to cut out the middleman.
I hope no one thinks I’m being rude.
Much like our disdain for small talk, Introverts also have a tough time hiding our true emotions. Which means that we can’t always fake a smile or feign excitement as easily as others. If we’re disinterested in something, we show it, which can make it difficult when it comes to meeting new people. We’re not being rude, promise, you just need to get to know us better!
I’m glad I came out tonight.
At the end of the day, despite the crowds and using up our energy by being sociable, we’re glad that we ended up coming out because we get to spend time with our friends and have a good time. Plus, it makes it socially acceptable for us to lock ourselves away in our room the next day, because you know, ‘the hangover’.
Can you relate to some of these thoughts? Tell me what goes through your mind on a night out!